Am I gay?

Not necessarily. But maybe.

Not everyone who thinks about kissing their friend or dreams hooking up with another guy is gay. Sexuality is very very complex. There's a whole lot to it and a whole bunch of ways it works.

If you're under 18, don't freak out about every thought, dream, or fantasy you have. It's normal to think about those things when you're growing up. Your sexuality is figuring itself out.

Another important thing to remember is that no one else can tell you that you're gay! People are jerks, and they're stupid sometimes. It's hard to deal with, but you have to tell someone you trust when people make fun of you by calling you gay. Pray about it, talk to safe people, and decide to ignore the name-calling. If you start believing their taunts, you'll be giving them what they want.

Don't pay attention to stereotypes, either. All gay people are not the same! The fact that you're a tomboy or an artistic guy does not mean anything about your sexuality! Gay guys can love sports. Lesbians can be girly. Straight people are often artistic, "weird", flamboyant, or political. Whatever it is about yourself that gets you or others thinking you're gay -- forget it. You are who you are. You're a lot more complicated than anyone thinks.

If you've been sexually abused, touched by someone of the same gender, or been talked into a homosexual encounter, you don't have to be gay. These things happen to lots of straight people all the time. They're just too scared to talk about it. Find a safe person and form a friendship with them. When you can find the strength and comfort, tell them what happened, and they can help you figure things out.

After saying all of that, many of you may still have serious doubts about your sexuality. That's OK. Keep reading.

Homosexuality is a strange and complicated thing. No one symptom can prove that you're gay. No checklist can let you know.

Are you sexually and romantically attracted to ONLY people of your own sex?

Do you feel more like a member of the opposite sex than your own?

What kind of reaction do you have to the thought of making out with someone of the opposite sex?

What kinds of things are you sexually attracted to?

These are some of the questions you should ask yourself when you're trying to figure yourself out.

If you are positive by this point that you are gay, then there's a good chance that you are homosexual. That does not mean that you have to be gay! Keep reading the FAQs to find out what your options are.